{"product_id":"9781035424368","title":"The Cost of Quiet : How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love by Colette Jane Fehr","description":"An empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behaviour in a relationship - disconnection, disengagement, and divorce - and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.   'I wish I had spoken up sooner.'People think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next. Avoidant behaviour - the need to 'keep the peace' rather than dealing with conflict head on - isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially 'quiet quit' our relationships. We can make another choice. In The Cost of Quiet, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behaviour and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty and vulnerability. The ultimate goal:  a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard - because a good relationship is worth fighting for.\u003cbr\u003eBinding: Paperback \/ softback","brand":"Gardners","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56368484778357,"sku":"9781035424368","price":16.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0612\/7193\/3106\/files\/9781035424368.jpg?v=1763549650","url":"https:\/\/backstory.london\/products\/9781035424368","provider":"Backstory","version":"1.0","type":"link"}