{"title":"Books by Stan Tatkin","description":null,"products":[{"product_id":"9781684037315","title":"Baby Bomb","description":"Before you succeed at parenting, you need to succeed as a couple! Baby Bomb is the resource you need when a new baby turns your life—and your romantic relationship—upside down. A baby is a blessing—and also a completely life-altering event. If you’re like many new parents, nothing could have fully prepared you for the exhaustion of late-night feedings, the explosive diapers, the evaporation of your free time, the pure joy, and the moments of pure terror. In the midst of these hazy, early months, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. And when you’re overwhelmed, it’s easy to put your romantic relationship on the back burner. But, more and more, research shows that in order to be the best parents you can be, you and your partner need to make sure that your needs—as a couple—are also met.  Written by a psychologist and relationship expert, Baby Bomb offers powerful tools based in psychology and neurobiology to help you and your partner co-parent and co-partner as a solid and supportive team—while also cultivating mad love for each other! You’ll find more than just “tips” for better parenting and partnering; you’ll discover how a secure-functioning relationship is essential for raising happy, healthy kids. This isn’t a book with advice about how to have a romantic candlelit dinner while your baby is screaming in the other room. It’s a road map for getting on the same page about your expectations as parents, about your needs as humans, and about how to maintain a strong and lasting relationship in the face of, well, a baby bomb.","brand":"Gardners","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56302515093877,"sku":"9781684037315","price":15.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0612\/7193\/3106\/files\/9781684037315_b6b51d36-7af3-4d4b-82bc-ca675aed0a72.jpg?v=1786024300"},{"product_id":"9781648482960","title":"Wired for Love","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWith more than 170,000 copies sold, Wired for Love is the complete \"insider's guide\" to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing new research drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition presents the ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help readers create safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third-any outside source which threatens the harmony in a relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe complete \"insider's guide\" to understanding your partner's brain, sparking lasting connection, and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust-now with more than 170,000 copies sold.\"What the heck is my partner thinking?\" \"Why do they always react like this?\" \"How can we get back that connection we had in the beginning?\" If you've ever asked yourself these questions, you aren't alone, and it doesn't mean that your relationship is doomed. Every person is wired for love differently-with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how.Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third-any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs.You'll find proven-effective strategies to help you strengthen your relationship by:   ·Creating and maintaining a safe \"couple bubble\"   ·Using morning and evening routines to stay connected   ·Learning how to see your partner's point of view   ·Meeting each other halfway in a fight   ·Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved  By using simple gestures and words, you'll learn to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel appreciated and loved. You'll also discover how to move past a \"warring brain\" mentality and toward a more cooperative \"loving brain.\" Most importantly, you'll gain a better understanding of the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.While there's no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you understand how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences, and create a lasting intimate connection.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Gardners","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56303027487093,"sku":"9781648482960","price":15.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0612\/7193\/3106\/files\/9781648482960_dfc6277b-b8bb-4ad5-b045-5eeac6d9ad91.jpg?v=1786024290"},{"product_id":"9781626253032","title":"Wired for Dating","description":"\u003cp\u003eEverybody wants someone to love and spend time with, and searching for your ideal partner is a natural and healthy human tendency. Just about everyone dates at some point in their lives, yet few really understand what they're doing or how to get the best results. In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatki -author of Wired for Love-offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eUsing real-life scenarios, you'll learn key concepts about how people become attracted to potential partners, move toward or away from commitment, and the important role the brain and nervous system play in this process. Each chapter explores the scientific concepts of attachment theory, arousal regulation, and neuroscience. And with a little practice, you'll learn to apply these exercises and practical techniques to your dating life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you're ready to get serious (or not!) about dating, meet your match, and have more fun, this book will be your guide.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Gardners","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56312676385141,"sku":"9781626253032","price":17.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0612\/7193\/3106\/files\/9781626253032_c7853551-c036-4db6-bb3f-82909e727ffa.jpg?v=1786023259"},{"product_id":"9781649633057","title":"In Each Other's Care","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eBreak the Cycle: A Comprehensive Guide to Overcome Chronic Relationship Struggles \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFew things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With\u003ci\u003e In Each Other's Care\u003c\/i\u003e, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDrawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning—a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing “takes time to learn,” Tatkin says. “And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThroughout \u003ci\u003eIn Each Other’s Care\u003c\/i\u003e, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to:\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentify the source of unhappiness in your relationship\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLearn techniques for preventing problems before they occur\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHeal the emotional wounds of the past\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTransform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRenew broken connections and return to intimacy\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhether you’ve been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, \u003ci\u003eIn Each Other’s Care\u003c\/i\u003e is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Gardners","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":56369093149045,"sku":"9781649633057","price":17.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0612\/7193\/3106\/files\/9781649633057_f4ee1a3a-76c6-4221-ae85-fd88d11157b6.jpg?v=1786024638"}],"url":"https:\/\/backstory.london\/collections\/author-stan-tatkin.oembed","provider":"Backstory","version":"1.0","type":"link"}